• Dr Ashutosh Srivastava

Stop Trying

We all desire some degree of achievement in life. We all hope for a modicum of success.

Unfortunately, many of us have been conditioned to believe that having grand goals is a delusion and that we should face the reality that most of us are not meant to be success stories. And it is for this reason that some see success as merely a dream.

This is the mentality of a person who says ‘I will try.’ These words imply the absence of commitment, a lack of determination and an unwillingness to give one’s all. People who say they will try, see life as a gamble and that the future is determined by luck alone.

When we say we will try, it is the same as saying we accept failure as the likely result. And this is equivalent to admitting our inevitable defeat.

Imagine an individual, who wishes to quit an addiction, that person cannot merely claim that he will try. To do so would be like saying that he doesn’t really believe quitting will work, but what the heck. It would be the same as stating that he doesn’t believe in himself. And by implicitly admitting this, he has already surrendered before he had even begun.

If we truly desire success, then there is no room for half-hearted measures. Triumph demands nothing less than one-hundred percent effort and an unwavering resolve. Our life stories should be victories instead of defeats. And in order to achieve this, we must believe that in life, there is no such thing as trying. Just do.

Trying is not enough.

In my opinion only trying, all too often leads to failure.

I hear the below words all too often and hell I even have used them myself.

  • “I’m trying.”

  • “Well at least I tried.”

  • “I tried and didn’t like it.”

  • “I am trying and it isn’t working!”

  • and so many other similar phrases that all use the word try.

It really doesn’t matter if you are talking about running, weight loss, eating better, making you relationships better, finding your niche in life, when you put “trying” or “try” in front of things that you want or need to accomplish, how often do you?

I believe that when we only “try” to do something we are setting ourselves up to fail.

When you are only trying to do something, you are giving yourself permission to fail if things become too difficult for you. After all you tried – didn’t you?

All to often do you go in with idea that simply trying was/is enough? I wonder if you had done more than try, could you have succeeded? Only you will know the answer to that question.

Get “try” out of your vocabulary, instead of using that negative word (because in my mind it simply trying is a negative) start using:

  • I will

  • I can

  • Let’s do it

  • and all the other similar ones

Yes those positive statements that many of us subconsciously avoid, that signify that you are going to do something, instead of only try to do it. You know those powerful words that show real commitment on your part to accomplish what you set out to do.

“There is no try – only do.” Yoda.

In other words: The power of doing, versus the act of trying.

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