Instead of chasing for love and happiness, why not attract it instead, right? Here are 7 ways to attract new love into your life.
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in."– Morrie Schwartz
The pursuit of love can last for a lifetime, but it doesn't mean that it's a dreadful situation. Everyone is entitled to receive love from the Universe, and if you've been idling for some time trying in vain to wait for it, we're here to help you out.
Instead of chasing for love and happiness, why not attract it instead, right?
Here are few ways to attract new love into your life:
Be specific with what kind of relationship you aspire to have.
Love comes in many forms, may it be romantic, platonic, or filial. As you feel the need to pursue it, make sure that you are aware of what you currently need right now rather than what you want.
You see that most people fall into the trap of chasing for love, which later turned out to be sour and detrimental for their well being.
If you simply desire new love because you feel like you're left behind by the times, or to fill what you deem the "missing piece" in your life, then you'll have to rethink it.
You see, before you start to actively try to attract new love, you have to reassess first. It's not an easy task to do, but it's necessary.
Ask the hard questions! Do you seek new love because of pure ego, or do you genuinely desire it? Assess your motivations, and once you've finally pinned it down, you can then work on your issues.
Clarity is key when trying to find love.
Love comes in many forms, may it be romantic, platonic, or filial. As you feel the need to pursue it, make sure that you are aware of what you currently need right now rather than what you want.
You see that most people fall into the trap of chasing for love, which later turned out to be sour and detrimental for their well being.
If you simply desire new love because you feel like you're left behind by the times, or to fill what you deem the "missing piece" in your life, then you'll have to rethink it.
You see, before you start to actively try to attract new love, you have to reassess first. It's not an easy task to do, but it's necessary.
Ask the hard questions! Do you seek new love because of pure ego, or do you genuinely desire it? Assess your motivations, and once you've finally pinned it down, you can then work on your issues.
Move forward by leaving emotional baggage behind.
Let go of the past, as it no longer serves you. If you're too hung up with a previous relationship and only motivated to chase a new one for "revenge," then that's not a healthy perspective to bring.
Another interpretation for this is that you have to let go of your self-destructive habits.
It's high time that you work on your emotional issues first before diving into the depths of new love, or you'll just find yourself drowning in the process. Remember that you also owe your future partner the love that they deserve.
And you can only give that to them if you have fully unpacked the emotional baggage you've been carrying for so long.
Stop being bitter with the happiness of others.
Don't project your own insecurities to people that are happy with their lives. More often than not, you'll just end up hurting yourself and even damage other people's relationships.
Erase the need to police other people on showing their love. Instead, try to nurture your perception of love by being receptive to the beauty of the little things in your life. No matter how mundane it may seem, remember that you have gone through many things already in life, and you have survived.
Monitor the tone of your self-talk
Have you been over critical with yourself lately? Then stop and try to shift your inner voice instead. Your self-talk is crucial because you can't grow into full bloom if you let yourself be convinced of your doubts.
Even if it's just a simple change, you'll see a tremendous improvement in your mood.
Surround yourself with tangible sources of loving vibes
There is a growing trend of people looking for interior ornaments and other collections. You see, there's a massive difference once you find yourself surrounded by tangible objects of love.
The more you identify with your external life, your inner life will also improve.
It is not merely a means to justify retail therapy. Instead, you become more intentional with the objects you put in your space. For example, having a personal library of your favorite books will always make you happier if you're a reader.
Show yourself the love you think you deserve.
If you've noticed by now, the first thing you need to do in order to attract new love deals with facing your own issues head-on. Like they said, in order to fill other's cup, you have to fill your own cup first.
You can't be expected to give if you have nothing left.
Self-love may feel like a fickle thing for some or just simply driven by consumerism. But what people forget is that self-love doesn't have to conform to the standards of social media.
Give yourself love by forgiving yourself.
Show yourself love through listening to the needs of your body, being accountable for your actions, and being grateful for what you currently have right now.
You see, the truest way to finally found love is by being receptive to it in the first place. If you fail to see the beauty in your life, then it is likely that you won't be able to know when a new love is actually right around the corner.
"There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment."
– Sarah Dessen
So make sure that once you've caught yourself in that throbbing moment, you are ready to receive it.